Sunday, August 17, 2008

11 months

Yes, I've been advised to cut your hair

I'm not too sure how to describe this past month other than to say that each day you are more a little boy and less a baby.

You have made major progress in the food department. I enticed you with some homemade blueberry oatmeal bars mashed into baby oatmeal. It worked! It opened your horizons and your palette is no longer hindered by textured cuisine. You've been eating a lot less baby food and a lot more mashed up table foods, even bread and wheat crackers and raisins.

Couscous anyone?

You love the water and have enjoyed a few outings to the pool. You can even go under water for a couple of seconds without drinking the whole pool. You love to crawl around as fast as you can and maneuver yourself up onto furniture and things. Whenever you see the bathroom door open you make a break for it before I can block you to see if there is water in the bathtub. When you manage to peek over the edge, you have a look of wonderment as to why there is no water in there and then you kind of wait and look to see if maybe some water will come. Consequently you've been banned from the bathroom. We may also have to get rid of our 9-year indoor lemon tree because it is all I can do to keep you away from it. You simply don't understand "No!" or you just have no respect for authority. Every time I say no, you just look at me and smile and continue on digging, eating and throwing out dirt from the pot.

C'mon, I know you've been dying to see my fabulous bum

You still enjoy being around your sister and don't mind her rough housing too much. You love exploring in the toy pile downstairs and can usually entertain yourself quite well. On the other hand, you're girlish scream is evolving into a demanding scream-grunt whenever you want something. You also have trouble containing your excitement sometimes and you apparently find it quite fitting to release some of it by biting. A bite, that is probably equivalent to a very painful bee sting I would imagine (I've never been stung) as it continues to resonate pain for quite a while.


You're as adorable as ever and as your true colors are starting to show, I think you will develop into quite the mischievous little boy.

Thursday, July 31, 2008

10 months


This past month, being at home with you, has been great and it's gone by so fast. I almost forgot your monthly post. Ironically, it almost seems that although we've spend so much more time together now, I've taken less pictures of you and have less time to ponder my thoughts about you --seeing as how that took a significant part of my time while I was at work, I guess ;)

You continue to be such a happy little guy that I never have the internal dialog of "if only I could go there, but I can't because you'll do ....". I'm able to go about our day with not too much special planning for you other than food and diapers. You go along with the flow. You're happy to be carted around in the car for errands, Sofia's activities, and anything else that comes your way.


"Oh, so this is how it's done."

This past month, you have managed to hold your own bottle successfully. Thank you. Every little bit helps. I'm not too impressed by your eating efforts though. You are very picky about texture. Basically, there can be no texture in your food what so ever, otherwise you make a gagging face and accompanying neck convulsion if you so much as encounter anything like a pee or meat the consistency of pate. You also shake your head no to signal you won't have any of it and sometimes just when you feel like dancing or something. The major milestone reached, of course, was crawling. You now crawl around everywhere like a pro. You also wave night-night and bye-bye.


I don't think you've grown much as you can still manage to squeeze into some cute 0-3 month hand-me-down onsies. You mostly wear 6-9 month old clothes but most pants have a hard time staying up. Your feet seem to have grown a bit but I still see no hope in site that they will be able to support and balance your body in any attempt to even stand by yourself by the the age of one. We'll see, maybe you'll prove me wrong.

Now, I've always said you are content and laid back little guy, but that's not to say you don't have a little streak of attitude sometimes. Unfortunately the attitude manifests itself in the form of kind of a girly scream. It's kind of embarrassing. You usually are unphased by my attempts to stop the screaming but one day I decided to be stern with you and after a couple of "No's" you quit. You also enjoy throwing all the contents out of your crib upon awaking which usually consists of a very small white jersey teddy bear and a mini ugly doll, sometimes, just to show me that you really mean it, you pull the fishies off your mobile and throw those too for good measure.

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

We have crawl

After much deliberation over which limb should start the crawling momentum, swaying back and forth, push ups, and settling for the rolling method of locomotion, we finally have crawling. It was, in fact, the right foot that finally took the initiative to give the first push.


After mastering the monumental milestone of crawling, Marcelo has changed. I think greed has taken over him and his sense of self importance has gone through the roof. No longer is he content to be a cute little lap puppy, he must crawl and explore and see what kind of small objects he can find on the carpet to stick in his mouth.

And I might have neglected to mention, we also have two top teeth. Those came in right at 9 months. You have such a nack for symmetry, Marcelo.

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

9 months


This month has been probably the opposite of last month -- fend for yourself month. I've been preoccupied with many things including Sofia's surgery. You did not sleep well that day at all, apparently as a protest to the lack of attention you were receiving. I've been trying to encourage you to hold your own bottle and you manage to feed yourself sometimes on your own. We never really did this with Sofia but you're #2 so you'll just have to get used to it. I've had to put you in the car with your bottle and go to run errands. I propped your bottle up with a stuffed animal. Dada gives you your morning bottle in the crib while he takes a shower. And, yesterday I sat you with your bottle on your high chair to watch Curious George with Sofia while I got some stuff done. TV, what a wonderful invention. I know, it may look like negligent parenting, but I only have two arms and one brain -- logistics, you know.


You've also been left to your own devices to fall asleep lately and you don't like it. For naps, I just leave you in your crib and you usually cry for a few minutes and then fall right asleep. When I go back to check on you, you are usually hugging the crib bumper and have at least one leg contorted and sticking out of the crib railing. If you fall asleep more peacefully, you sleep on your tummy with arms tucked in and butt in the air. So cute.


You are finally able to pull yourself up to a standing position while holding on to the rail of your crib. I wasn't there the first time it happened, but Dadda reports you were overwhelmed with pride, had an ear to ear grin and started doing a shake up and down dance until you almost aced yourself and then got really serious.

Still no crawling. You've elected to use the rolling method to get yourself here and there. Did I mention that you now have two bottom teeth.

The eczema issue seems to have plateau. Perhaps it's because I refuse to give you the MSG-corn syrup-manganese laden Nutramigen as your sole source of nutrition. Or maybe the fact that Dadda refuses to get rid of the dogs. Or, that you are just extremely sensitive and allergic to pretty much anything that touches your skin. You still scratch a lot and now that you are older I think we will have to resort to spankings.

OK, maybe not spanking but I've started with the "No no's". Every time you go to do something you shouldn't like stick the pointy side of an ointment tube in your mouth, I say "No no" and you look at me like "What? Why would you say that to me ... me, the cutest person on the planet. Are you sure you're talking to the right person here".


Since you can now sit up with perfect control, I got you your first swim trunks and matching swim shirt to protect your SENSITIVE skin and threw you in the pool. You absolutely love the water just as Sofia did. You love splashing and you never complain about getting cold even when your lips started to turn purple. At school, you got to go on your first field trip, a stroller ride to the grassy area for a pool party. You were one of two babies that loved the water and didn't want to come out of the pool.

You are very popular and probably one of the favorites at school. All the teachers say hi to you as I parade you through the gym to pick up Sofia, teachers that I don't even know. I hope you continue to be an adorable and sweet little boy. Is that possible? Despite, the fend for yourself situation, the good news for you is that as of this week, you are done with daycare and you get to stay home with me and your big sister. Unlike Sofia who is old enough to remember her daycare life, you will never even know that you went to daycare for 6 months of your life and I expect that spending more time with mami will be fulfilling for both of us and will also help you remember my name better.


At your Well Baby Checkup you weighed 16lbs 13oz (5th percentile) and you were 27 inches tall (25th percentile). Still a wee little guy, but Dr Arnold thinks you're fine as long as you're still growing and not shrinking. He suggested more table foods. I hope you like rice. They were not impressed that you do not yet clap, wave, say mama, take a few steps, and have no circus skills what so ever. I told them all you need to do is just sit there and smile.

Saturday, May 17, 2008

8 months

This past month has been the allergy alert month. Almost every other thought in my head is about your allergies and are you potentially allergic to this or to that. And, how do I make sure you never come in to contact with this substance or that material. Then I start feeling like an obsessed germ-aphobe because there's just no way to avoid breathing in dirt and pollen and coming into contact with dog hair/dander, so I try to relax about it and then what happens? You get a giant rash all over your face and neck because I put you down on the floor in your room to play for two seconds while I went to wipe Sofia's butt. But I didn't just put you directly on the evil, dog-skin festered carpet, I put a clean blanket down first to protect you and handed you a soft fabric block from a bin that I thought was clean, because I obsessively wash everything you come into contact with and yell left and right anytime someone puts anything on the floor. Apparently this block that you, of course, decided to rub all over your face had been compromised with DOG. These incidents make it clear that the dogs need to go but other forces at work don't agree. I washed all the dog beds and the dogs and we're trying to train them --ha!, did I just say "train them". We're trying to scold them into not coming into your room. I bought the "Furminator", a $50 comb to de-shed the dogs and spend several hours working on them yesterday (outside). I will probably spend a small fortune buying the whole Furminator line of products. I'm still doing extensive research on Hepa Air Filters being as it appears that most of them don't do anything at all.

Apparently, your palate disapproves of stage 2 finger foods.
As part of the fight against allergies and other bad things, we've been giving you more baby food (1-2 meals a day) and a cocktail of breast milk, regular formula, and the hypoallergenic, MSG laden Nutramigen formula. Plus your new Zyrtec prescription, 1/4 tsp. each night. I've also found some new cheap BPA free bottles for you at none other than, what I am forced to reluctantly admit may be our second favorite store, Walmart. Yes, I said it, Walmart. The store I once hated so much that I walked out cursing every time swearing never to return. What is it about having children that naturally draws you to this store and wanting a mini van with doors that open and close by themselves? These bottles are the Walmart brand, Parent's Choice, they come in an ugly three pack of green, yellow, and orange tones with markings that can only be read with an ultraviolet light and nipples that drip. The pros - they are BPA free plastic, they cost something around $3.76/3 pk. plus the cost of the fast flow nipples $3.76/6 pk., it could be my imagination but they appear to have a similar air releasing design on the cap like Avent bottles, and you'll drink from them. The colors are even starting to grow on me and just a couple of days ago, you started grasping the bottle with your two hands. It's about time, because all the not so fun aspects of bottle feeding are rapidly coming back to me, like holding the bottle (yes, I'm lazy), preparing the bottle, warming the bottle, washing the bottle, always remembering to bring a bottle, and of course the worst part about formula feeding -- the smell: the smell of the formula, the smell of the spit up, the smell of the burps, the smell of the farts, the smell of the sweat, and the smell of the POOP!


In general, everyone comments about how big you're getting and how good you look, referring to your eczema wrought skin. Your skin has been looking better, even before we went to the allergist we noticed and uptrend but you still scratch violently; looks are deceiving. I've also noticed that you tend to rash up very quickly when you come into contact with some offending material. Last week, you came down with your regularly scheduled cold and managed to get another ear infection (antibiotic round #2, still Amoxicillin). You had a fever for several days and somehow managed to get a nasty rash on the backs of your knees that took several days to clear up with the steroid ointment. We have now gone through one whole tube of steroid ointment. Don't worry, the tube is very small. You insisted on being held 24/7 for several days and used my chest to rub off your snot and slobber on.

But enough about the eczema and allergies lest we forget there's much more to your darling little personality than your ailments. This month you cut your first tooth on the bottom left and about a week later I noticed the one right next to it trying to come up too. I see you too have an affinity for symmetry in life. You've been drooling like crazy but it's starting to taper off now that your tooth is more exposed. You also got several blisters on the fingers on your right hand but I think they are from you biting yourself not from external allergens. I don't think you've grown much, but your last few trips to the doctor, you were around 16 lbs. I'm feeling the weight because you share Sofia's affliction -lazy leg syndrome which apparently prevents you from the normal monkey latch on position most children take when you carry them on your hip. If I only use one arm to hold you, you literally start sliding right down my leg without a care in the world. By this point I'm usually struggling to maintain a grip on the back of your onesie.

You really enjoy splashing in the bath and sometimes express your disappointment when I take you out. Getting dressed is just a bother to you now, so I have to give you something interesting to hold while I change you to prevent you from rebelling. As soon as I sit you on the changing table, you reach your little grabber right over to the basket with lotions and potions. Your hands are like Velcro, as soon as they make contact with something, I pull you away and the object comes along with you. This is usually the entire wire basket containing lotion, petroleum jelly, cotton balls, thermometer, nose sucker, nail clippers and other inappropriate and sharp objects.


I've started reading you a night time book this month and you enjoy this a lot. It can be a bit of a struggle as I fight with your grabber for the pages, but your face lights up and you are very interested. Sometimes if you're crabby, I show you the Meomi poster on your wall and you get so happy like you just want to jump in it and be part of it. I think you've figured out you can't actually grab the little critters out of the picture but you still like to touch them with a petting motion. It gives me much joy and satisfaction to see your appreciation for art that I thoughtfully picked out for you. A sense that often escapes adults as one person said to me when I was considering another to-me-inexpensive illustration, "why would you waste money on that? you're crazy." I love that it makes you so happy and I will no doubt be very sad when you someday replace it with a poster of a car, rock band, or worse, a Victoria's Secret model.

Yesterday, we had to lower your crib mattress because you've shown signs of wanting to do things with your legs. A lot of times we sit you in the middle of the crib, your small fortress of dog-free space, while putting clothes away or doing things in your room. You usually play with your ugly monster doll or your mirror or mostly your feet. But this time, Sofia was clowning around in your room and you had to get closer to the action, so you grabbed on to the side of the crib with one grabber and then with the other and pulled yourself over to peek over the edge. You got yourself into a kneeling position and pushed yourself up. The best part is the look on your face, you act like you've just done the neatest thing ever. It's soooo cute.


Lately, you've been grunting, squealing, and making a lot of noise in general. You still like to say "a-da-da". You like to be near Sofia. You like to put EVERYTHING in your mouth. And you like to be tickled and have the same sort of choked up laugh that Sofia did. It's a short outburst that suddenly gets muted as if all the outward energy gets abruptly cut off by a paralyzing excitement. You are such a cute little boy. Everyone loves your big flirty eyes and your infectious smile.

Friday, May 16, 2008

GQ moment

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Green-er

While I'm not usually known to follow popular social trends such as buying organic foods only and hopping on the "green" bandwagon, there is one thing to be said for having children -- they will definitely change you, make you think more about the world around you and look at it from a different perspective. Lately I've been tormented with the safety issue of vaccines, the apparently rising rate of autism and other neurological disorders, why it takes 2 1/2 months to get in to see an allergist, and now with Marcelo's confirmed allergy issues, the changes I must make to the food that sustains him and the bottles he drinks it from.

The new Nutramigen formula from Enfamil recommended by the allergist, I calculated would cost us about $200/month for 4 feedings per day. Wow. When I switched Sofia to formula, I think it only cost us about $50/month and she consumed more than Marcelo does. Unfortunately, in doing my price comparison shopping, I came across some disturbing information about the ingredients in Nutramigen, namely that it contains MSG , 46% corn syrup solids, and a high amount of the heavy metal Mn, a known neurotoxin. What?! Why would a doctor, an allergist no less, recommend that I give my baby a giant dose of corn syrup, MSG and Manganese for Pete's sake! (you know what I really meant to say here). Moreover, if Marcelo is going to go from one bottle to four bottles a day, I'm looking to get rid of all of our rather pricey Avent bottles because they contain BPA which can leach out into the milk. BPA has recently come under scrutiny due to a recent study and is already planned to be baned in Canada, though not in the USA.

Hello?! If you're walking over a bridge that is falling apart several times a day but people say it's still OK because it hasn't yet fallen down, no one has broken an ankle much less died, do you continue to walk it or do you find another route. Duh. Why do we have to wait for mass quantities of people to be have neurological or other tragic and irreversible health issues to safeguard the health of our children. That's like saying -oh yep, fifty people fell of the bridge today so it looks like it's not a safe as we thought; um let's not use it anymore and find a different route instead.

So, there's some companies out there, "green" companies?, that are selling BPA free baby bottles (e.g. BornFree, GreenToGrow) . We need at least 8 new bottles with nipples. At about $14.50 a piece, this would cost us $116 to replace bottles we already have. Plus we need to buy new sippy cups too because the ones we have are made by Avent, a company in denial of the potential hazards of BPA. How ironic that they became famous for developing the wide neck bottle/nipple that was more like the breast but could care less if their bottles could cause serious health problems. Is it because they are now owned by Phillips. I don't know, I don't care. I don't have time to know all these things. I also need to buy a drinking container for Sofia to use at daycare because they like to re-use plastic water bottles. I need one that doesn't have an exposed mouth piece (daycare-falling on the ground-germs, etc.), so I'm looking at this one, $15 -cha ching.

So yes, I realize I'm talking about several things here but the living "green" craze, this is what bothers me. Why does living "green" need to mean that you need to have or just spend a lot of money, like being green means you're being better than everyone else and a related way of feeling better than everyone else is having or just spending more money. It annoys me to no end. I mean $10 to get a cheap plastic bottle that you could get before they started making them with the supposedly more expensive polycarbonate (i.e. BPA). But you can feel good about yourself because you're being "green".

I do like to recycle because our city provides us with a giant recycle bin which they pick up every other week. I have no problem separating my recyclable garbage from my garbage garbage and neither does Sofia. I'm glad she will grow up never questioning the fact that you could just throw everything out together. She knows what goes in which bin and sometimes she'll ask me. The fact that for the first several months we had the new recycle bin, unbeknown to me, Ray had been throwing everything in the regular garbage bin anyway may mean Ray is more brown than green. (I only found this out when we were talking to our neighbor about the new bins and Ray said he didn't even know why they were doing that because we hardly ever had anything to throw in there anyway. I think the aspartame in his diet coke is affecting his brain). We have the low-e bulbs in our house, we have secondary water, I've even recently switched to some organic foods such as eggs and oatmeal. But frankly, there's only so far I can go with the whole green thing. I mean, would I really rather eat lettuce with pesticide or lettuce with e-coli. I don't know. For now, I'm going with the one that doesn't cost four times the price. Last year Earth's Best had a recall on it's organic baby foods. It makes it hard to chose, much less, to pay more for what you know is best for your children when in fact, you can't necessarily know it at all.

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*Update 5/8/08 - I was able to get on a live chat with Dr Greene today and pose my question about the questionable ingredients in Nutramigen. I was very disappointment that he basically skirted the MSG and corn syrup solids issues completely. He did say he was concerned about the high level of Manganese but then later decided it was OK if my child was of solid food eating age. Entirely not helpful nor insightful. He agreed that Nestle Good Start with "comfort proteins" wasn't going to help but I already knew that. So I guess, the only other alternative is Infamil Alimentum which may not be as effective as Nutramigen.
Still looking for bottles, but apparently my Avent sippy cups are OK.
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There's so many links I could include with this post it's ridiculous, but here are just a few
http://www.thegreenguide.com/products/Kids_&_Babies/Baby_Bottles
http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/2007/09/04/bpa-free-safe-sippy-cups/